“The artist said a smart thing: that it was embarrassing to be a man, but he wouldn’t have it any other way. He also said he thought the US porn industry, a phrase I can’t tell if he meant synecdochically, was cruel for telling men to come on command. I agreed, but I also thought the men broke down in their small white rooms, one at a time in front of one camera, because they’d never before had to be the lone objects of a gaze. And, lacking the feminized receptacle without which the dick can’t exist, they began to feel, for perhaps the first time in while, the embarrassment of just being human.”—Sarah Nicole Prickett, “The Ultimate Humiliation: Elliot Rodger, American Kid” (via mercurialblonde)
“I’ve said this a million times: there should be no limitations on comedy. Anything you wanna fucking do - do. But it should be “why do you want to?” When you learn someone’s story, you might not want to. You still can, but you might not want to. If you really learn what a transgendered person goes through, how scary it is, and how brave they are - you might go “you know, I might wanna make fun of the people that make fun of them.””—Todd Glass, CBB 290 (via dancingwithleland)
I listen to Judge John Hodgman every week while I am picking pubes and scrubbing toilets and wiping phlegm out of bath tubs. I make minimum wage and am told that I am expected to clean a room every 20 minutes. A five dollar tip (in ones or a single $5 bill - no loose change please) doubles my wage and therefore comes close to approaching a living wage for those twenty minutes. Judge Hodgman was right on when he said it is a sign of respect. A sign of respect for those of us, due to circumstances that are often beyond our control, end up doing the work that many of are guests would refuse to perform.
When I enter a room with beer bottles and pizza boxes and wet towels spread all over the room and often on the floor, I know that there are idiots in the world and there is nothing I can do to help them not be idiots. It makes the rest of my work much harder and I am discouraged with myself for letting the idiots of the world get me down. But then… I open the next door to see the trash in the trash cans, the towels gathered together in the tub or on the sink and the beds - slept in - but the spread neatly pulled up, I know that someone else, NOT an idiot, has respect for the hard work I do to make their stay more comfortable.
Paper money that I can quickly fold and place in my smock is very much preferred. Change gets heavy and is awkward when I’m making a quick trip through a fast food drive through on my way to my other low wage job.
Thank you so much, Judge Hodgman, for the respect that you showed us housekeepers with the comments you gave with your judgement.
Long story short: A few days ago, cartoonist MariNaomi wrote an op-ed about being harassed by professional comic-book writer Scott Lobdell on a panel at a convention. MariNaomi was very careful to avoid identifying information, but Lobdell apparently read the piece and recognized himself—maybe…
EDIT (12/17/13, 3:45pm): Within hours of this post going viral, I received a call from Helen Moore, the CSD for Golden Gate Bus. It was a good call. They’re paying attention. They want to fix this. I don’t know what will happen with the driver who laughed and shook my harasser’s hand, but…
One of my biggest fears with street harassment is being followed. The driver was informed of the problem, and at that point, it is about far more than defending someone from insult. The driver had a basic human obligation to not put a woman in further danger, by allowing someone who had just threatened her with violence to remain in an enclosed space with her, and by not taking the offender on transit that could expose his victim’s route home.
One of the things I love most about NYC is that there are almost always people on the street, there are almost always bars or 24hour bodegas around. There are witnesses*. There are safe-ish places to go when men follow you and you need to call for backup, or a diversion cab that will take you a few blocks over and back so the creep who just stalked you off the train won’t know your route home.
*Witnesses almost never intervene, but a predator’s fear of witnesses may work to your advantage.
“When people of colour are expected to educate white people as to their humanity, when women are expected to educate men, lesbians and gay men are expected to educate the heterosexual world, the oppressors maintain their position and evade their responsibility for their own actions.”— Audre Lorde (via femme-fatale-feminista)
Bad feelings over the bailouts and extortionary bank fees have driven millions of Americans into the arms of local credit unions. But instead of luring them back with better customer service, Big Banks are using their lobbying might to kill off credit unions, attempting to destroy a crucial tax exemption that credit unions need to survive.
Big Banks sucked up over a trillion dollars in the bailouts, but now they’re claiming that credit unions are the biggest problem to the national deficit. Banks say that credit unions cost the government $1.5 billion in lost tax revenue, but if the banks get their way, it will cost us over ten billion dollars each year in higher fees and rates.
Congress gets back from recess this week, and banks are about to kick off a big lobbying push for the fall. The banks are trying to kill consumer-friendly credit unions so that they can raise rates with impunity — but we aren’t going to let them.
Tell Bank of America and its cronies to stop their crusade against credit unions.
We can’t afford a future without credit unions. If we show the banks just how much this desperate gamble will backfire, the threat of bad publicity and another banking scandal will cause the banks to rethink their pricy lobbying push. Large-scale protests have forced banks to change their tune before, and once word gets out about the banks’ incredible greed, the backlash should send them packing.
Anytime that regulation is mentioned, bankers like to cry out about free-market principles. But banks use an army of lobbyists to shape legislation as they see fit. This time, they’ve gone too far in trying to take out the competition. If we all step up today, we can stop this in its tracks, and save consumer-friendly credit unions from extinction.